community involvement Archives - The Friends School of Atlanta

Want to know what The Friends School of Atlanta is like? Ask Karen McMichael, known to her friends at FSA as Kaymac. She will be retiring as the school’s administrative assistant at the end of the 2017-2018 school year, but Kaymac’s Friends School journey started years before, when she and her husband decided to send their son, Ian, to FSA in 1998.

“Our son was at Georgia State University’s Child Development Center,” Kaymac recalled. “They recommended the Friends School for him, specifically because he wasn’t any trouble and he was [and still is] very bright. They felt he was going to fall through the cracks in the public schools. We visited FSA first, and to tell you the truth, we didn’t visit any other school.”

After Ian started attending, Kaymac volunteered her time and soon found that the culture fit her like a glove. She felt at home, so much so that when she was brought on staff full-time in 2001, the transition was virtually seamless.

She’s done a bit of everything over the years. She does website updates, performs some registrar work and helps with admissions in ways that coworkers identify as completely responsive, patient and effective in bringing calm to often stressful situations. She has taught word processing, Photoshop, jewelry making, among other subjects; and, as a teacher’s aid in reading, has experienced the joy of witnessing a child’s “aha” moment, the initial spark of understanding, of conquering a small hill, looking back with pride, and looking forward with confidence. “The squiggles on the page, the letters, now mean something to them,” she said. “It’s different with every child, but once you witness it, it’s something you never forget.”

“Kaymac’s smile and gentle nature was refreshing as well as encouraging to the children that she assisted with reading,” recalls long-time first grade teacher Celest Samas. “Her love of books has inspired generations of FSA first graders.”

The entire FSA experience is shaped by a kind of empathy that anyone associated with the school—staff, teachers, students, parents, alumni—knows very well. “Early on, working here and sending my son to school here, I learned about not judging people by my life. Consider what the other person’s life is like.” That is, she doesn’t judge someone based on her own life experiences, but instead tries to truly understand the complete context, and how the whole of a life shapes a person. It’s living the expression “knowing where the person is coming from,” but on a much deeper level.

This philosophy even lends itself to her teaching. Speaking about Kaymac’s jewelry-making middle school exploratory, 6^th graders Katy and Paideia said, “Kaymac gives lots of freedom to express yourself, always makes space for laughter and responds right away when you need help.”

Living it comes through listening instead of waiting to talk. It also comes through feeling at home in silence, be it during class, silent meeting or during administrative staff meetings, where silence plays a key role. After someone expresses an opinion, everyone sits for a brief period of silence, allowing time to reflect on what was just said. That builds understanding, reinforces empathy, and buttresses FSA’s unique, enduring community.

“I’ve loved this place since the first day my son started school here, and I’ve never stopped learning. It’s such an amazing community.”

Those who have worked side by side with Kaymac in the administration, whether for decades or just a few years, are not sure how to move forward without her capable, reassuring presence. “It would be impossible to enumerate all of the ways that our beloved Kaymac has served the school community,” according to Waman French, Head of School. “Speaking personally, Kaymac has provided the ultimate support during some very difficult times as well as joyous ones.”

Likewise, Nancy Bent, Director of Advancement, shared, “Kaymac is so utterly reliable, so meticulous with detail, so unflagging in her willingness to serve however she is needed. I will dearly miss partnering with her on the work of the school.”

Kaymac may be retiring this year, but she—like all the students, staff, teachers, and alums who have passed through The Friends School’s doors—will never stop being part of the FSA community.

By Tim Heston

Tim Heston has written for business magazines since 1996. He’s won some awards here and there, but his greatest achievement is being the proud parent of an FSA fifth grader.

By Alex Zinnes, Middle School World Studies Teacher

I have noticed that community service projects are often undertaken from a place of inequity, inequity of resources and of power. The organization serving often comes from the stance of “I have something YOU need. Allow me to give it to you.”

Since the Friends School of Atlanta’s (FSA) first encounter with Our House, which provides child care and support for families who experience homelessness, I have wanted our relationship to be one based in mutuality, a partnership, recognizing that both groups benefit from the experience of working together to support the Our House preK.

Sure, preK kids at Our House benefit academically as well as socially and emotionally with one-on-one contact with our 7th and 8th grade volunteers who come twice a week. (Our House is located about one tenth of a mile from FSA.)And, Our House benefits when we are able to bring donated supplies or to connect the program with our parent community and other resources to enrich the programming.

But I want to reinforce that FSA benefits from the partnership with Our House, too. I ask my students if they have ever considered becoming a teacher, camp counselor, babysitter, sports coach, or lifeguard. Many of them say that they are considering those paths. And they immediately recognize that Our House is giving them valuable life experience working with children or even a window into what being a parent might be like.

Our students transition to other schools for high school, and students know that our partnership at Our House offers them a unique experience that communicates to their new schools that they are caring people. They speak of learning about the importance of being patient, kind, and supportive to their little buddies and how that makes them feel good, too. Students often talk about Our House as a formative life experience in their high school admissions process.

I have 7th and 8th grade students with their own learning differences. For a student with a reading struggle, the ability to read a book with confidence to the Our House preK kids is a happy moment of relief. My students who experience social and emotional struggles of their own with their peers feel the pressure ease up at Our House: they get to feel like the cool kids, secure and self-possessed. Over and over again, I witness how family, academic, and social stress just melts away for FSA students at Our House. That is an invaluable offering.

Middle school can be a confusing and turbulent time as students figure out who they are becoming. FSA’s partnership with Our House provides our students with both practical life skills and a pleasant refuge where they can learn, grow, and feel a sense of their own goodness. On behalf of my students and the FSA community, thank you for this vital and sustaining partnership.